Porque é que agimos de maneira diferente quando alguém está a observar a nossa ação? Porque é que se reage quando se é corrigido?

Os excertos deste artigo fazem parte de um exercício no qual eu identificava uma situação de conflito entre mim e o meu parceiro.

O objectivo era o de realizar que o padrão não tem a ver com a outra pessoa - o padrão já existia e foi projectado na minha realidade. Portanto, aqui procura-se saber a origem do padrão e perceber como se ultrapassar esta limitação.

A personagem  "nunca-faço-nada-bem-feito" surge da necessidade de se fazer bem para os outros e ser-se reconhecido, em plena separação connosco próprios e a alimentar os desejos to ego; realizar-se que a perfeição é um processo e não uma imagem daquilo que já se conhece. Ao mesmo tempo, há traços de autoridade masculina projectada na relação com os homens;

I forgive myself for having accepted and allowed myself to blame and project towards another my own self-judgement of never doing things perfect.

I forgive myself for having accepted and allowed myself to judge my actions as not OK based on the idea that I should be better. I realise that this idea only exists in my mind– what is real is what I am/I do here and now. I realise that self-perfection is a process and that there are no quick-fix solutions for patterns that have been building throughout the years. Now it's the time to bring the patterns back to self, face it and forGive - let it go.

I forgive myself for having accepted and allowed myself to sabotage my potential of being perfect by being attached to self-judgements that keep me in a time loop of self-distrust and thus unable to be focused in what I do here and now.

I forgive myself for having accepted and allowed myself to judge myself as a failure each time someone corrects me.

I forgive myself for having accepted and allowed myself to project towards my partner my desire for knowledge and my desire of being right.

I forgive myself for having accepted and allowed myself to participate in the backchat of thinking that I never do anything perfect next to my partner I realise that it is not about the other but it is about the personality that I try to be next to my partner/others.

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Ou seja, todos os padrões projectados nos outros existem primeiro em mim...

I forgive myself for having accepted and allowed myself to judge people's actions as never being good enough or perfect. I forgive myself for having accepted and allowed myself to assume that people do things incomplete on purpose just because are lazy.

I forgive myself for not having accepted and allowed myself that all I have ever known is my mind because my mind is projected towards others. In fact I realise that when I judge people's actions I am reacting towards my own self-judgement. A trap in the mind to keep us busy in our bubble...

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E agora pontos práticos parar corrigir:

When and as I see myself reacting when someone comments my actions, I stop the reaction, I breathe and I stand equal to men/women. I listen to the comment without making comparisons. I realise that I have been judging the word “correction” as something that was wrong. 

When and as I see myself reacting to a correction, I stop and I breathe. I embrace people’s comment as a new dimension of the action that I am doing and that will help me in my process of self-perfection.

I realise that the solution is to stop my participation in the pattern/cycle of reaction. I realise that the mind is fueled by physical instability, thus I dedicate myself to my physical stability within and as breath. I am one and equal with my body and I support myself as my body. 

I realise that there is no real difference between doing things alone or doing things in the presence of another.

So, when I am doing something and my partner suggests another way of doing things, I do not allow myself to take the comment personally or to feel offended by it. I realise that I am the one judging my actions as wrong and thus I take responsibility to stop my self-judgements.

When and as i see myself attached to an idea of perfection, I stop and I breathe. I realise that self-perfection is a process. I commit myself to take self-responsibility for my creation here, by stopping the thought and living my self-correction as that which is best for me/other/all.

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A personagem não é real a partir do momento que eu não permito nem aceito vestir a personagem.